Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Small changes, change your ways. Quantum leaps, change your paradigms.

Dear Friends,

One of my favorite books of all time is "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Dr. Stephen R. Covey. Dr. Covey's book sometimes takes a few times to read before fully grasping what he is talking about but once you do, you will be fully awakened into a world of success.

One of the first topics that he covers in his books is paradigms. A paradigm is basically the lens that we look through when we view the world. He maintains that if you want to make small changes in your life, change your ways. But if you want to make "quantum leaps" as he calls them toward a more enriched life, change your paradigms.

He tells a story about getting on a quiet train one Sunday morning. Some people are asleep, others are reading the paper, and some are chatting softly. All of a sudden, the door opens and a man gets on the train with his kids. The kids are extremely obnoxious; running around screaming and yelling. Dr. Covey and a few others on the train can't help but to look over at the man to see if he is going to discipline them in some way, shape or form.

The man however, is just sitting there staring into space with a blank look on his face; almost oblivious to the way the children are behaving. After a few more minutes of the disturbance and the man's lack of action to do anything about it, Dr. Covey felt obliged to say a few words to the man.

He asked him if he was going to do anything about the obnoxious behavior and began pointing out exactly how erratic the children were in fact acting.

The man looked over at the children and then looked over at Dr. Covey and said "you're right, they are acting obnoxious but after all, they did just come from the hospital where their mother passed away a few hours ago."

Shocked and then instantly embarrassed, Dr. Covey's feelings immediately changed from the need to instruct the man to the need to console him and show him empathy for his loss.

What had happened was Dr. Covey's paradigm changed. The situation remained exactly the same. The train was still silent. The children were still disrupting everyone and the man was still doing nothing about it. What changed was the lens that Dr. Covey was viewing these events through.

The point is this. Many times people can look at the same thing and see different things. The reason for this is that we all the see the world through a different paradigm.

People who preserve their health by eating the right foods and exercising see their health through a different paradigm than those who do not. The funny thing is that many people who do not preserve their health actually want to because they are unhappy with themselves but they simply cannot because their paradigms won't allow them to.

The same goes for any other area of one's life including building wealth. Most people I know want to be financially independent. They have big dreams but they still wind up having to work for a paycheck for the rest of their lives.

Then you have people that seem to do almost nothing and wind up rich. Is luck a factor? Perhaps.

But I think a more realistic description of why stuff like this happens has to do with the paradigms that wealthy people see the world through versus the ones poor people see the world through.

The sad fact is that no matter how many programs, tapes, cd's, courses, videos, affirmations, goal setting techniques, time management resources you use, if your paradigm is not set for
success and building wealth, you will either never achieve it or your results will be short lived.

When is now the best time for a paradigm shift.

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